Remember The Babies Foundation.
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Pregnancy loss and child loss is such a unspoken and hidden conversation. We really don't understand why, when it happens to so many people from so many different cultures, ethnic backgrounds, and so close to you. You may have not experienced this but your mom, aunt, sister, grandma, cousin, or close friend has, because the statistic rates are so high. Did you know there are over 3 Million cases per year and 58% of which happens to women under the age of 35? Some people really don’t understand how detrimental losing a baby is from a miscarriage, still birth , or infant loss. It affects you mentally , physically, & emotionally all at once. We have to put a stop to this by breaking the silence and having the miscarriage, still birth, and infant loss conversation. But more importantly sharing our stories with one another. There is so much healing from being able to talk about it without being judged or looked at as defective. To all the women and men out there who loss a baby to any circumstance, regardless of the cause, Remember The Babies SEES YOU & SUPPORTS YOU from one MOTHER & FATHER who experienced this grief to another.
"January 2010, a day I rarely talk about, it’s just hard. But to my first child that I NEVER MET, made it to heaven. Continue to rest in heaven and watch over me, your father, and your siblings we LOVE YOU and we will see you again."
My name is Sara and this is our story my first Pregnancy was in 2014 around summer I discovered I was pregnant but I was having what the doctors called a Threatened miscarriage I was 9 weeks along when I lost the baby I got pregnant again a year later and had a son who is 4 years old now in 2018 I became pregnant again the day we were going to find out what we were having the doctor said we were having a girl but then she gave us devastating news she said our baby had many complications in her brain that she wasn't compatible with life It broke my heart and I cried all the way home despite what she said I didn't want to loose hope because doctors make mistakes all the time when we went back for another checkup the doctors diagnosed her with Holoprocencephaly they said the same thing that babies that had this do not survive they asked me if I wanted to continue my pregnancy or terminate and I couldn't bare that thought but every doctor appointment after the news got worse and worse. She had abnormalities in her brain,face,spin and there was a hole in her heart that last doctors visit I was exactly 6 months along I had to make the hardest decision of my life I decided to terminate the pregnancy because her heart beat had started to slow down I knew at that moment I would not make it to my due date it tore me apart the doctor's induced my labour and I was there for two days I had her naturally at 5:32 in the morning on September 19th 2018 the nurses cleaned her up and brought her to me in a lil pink blanket and a lil pink beanie and I got to hold her we named her Rebecca Grace and she was the tiniest most beautiful lil Angel there is saying goodbye to her was the hardest thing I ever had to do no mother wants to leave a hospital with empty arms I still had to come home and explain to my son who was two at the time that there was no more baby in mommy's tummy that was hard to do we decided to bury her she had a beautiful funeral and is surrounded by all the other Angel babies gone to soon 10 days after we buried our daughter we attended the Wave of Light at our church Shepherd of the hills it was there that I met many other people who knew my pain that same night I signed up for a support group called In Loving Arms a group where we would get together once a week and share our story's and talk about our babies or what could have been I've became very good friends with these people and I've been able to help others cope with their losses as well as my own it has helped me on my healing journey and I've been able to find many resources on spreading awareness I am the 1 in 4 I am the Mother of Angel's
I found out I was pregnant in August 2019. Started out as a good pregnancy and I found out I was having a girl December 26, 2019. Me and my fiance at the time were super excited! During that doctor's appointment I was told that I had a low lying placenta but not to worry. I was around 20 weeks at the time. About a week later I started to swell in my ankles and a little in my hands and face. I called my doctor but I only asked her if I could start wearing compression socks. As another week passed I started swelling even more up to my knee caps. It hurt to walk and I had abdominal pains. My urine was also dark. I didn't call my doctor because I thought this was how pregnancy developed. I read that you could have some swelling but I didn't know mine was severe. On January 15th, my legs were hurting extremely bad. My grandmother gave me a blood pressure machine a few weeks before so I took it out and took my blood pressure. My blood pressure said 207/127. I called my doctor and she said to go to the emergency room. My fiance at the time took me to L & D, the nurse took out the doppler, and she couldn't find a heartbeat. The doctor came in to do an ultrasound and told me "sorry but there is no heartbeat". I was devastated. I was in shock. My fiance at the time burst into tears. I was so in shock I froze. My placenta also abrupted. I was told that I developed preeclampsia that turned into HELLP syndrome. The doctor said I could have had a stroke, heart attack, or even could have died. It was unbelievable. I was told that I still had to deliver my daughter. I gave birth to my daughter Naomi January 16th, 2020. It was very traumatic because it felt like I had to use the bathroom and I ended up having her in the toilet. The nurse was able to save her, clean her up, dress her, and we were able to hold her. We had our daughter cremated and she is in a heart shaped urn. We have a table just for her urn with a few other memorable items. My husband has done a great job with helping especially when certain dates come around and whenever I need a shoulder to cry on and vice versa. We definitely continue to keep Naomi close to our hearts!
My name is Malaika and last year May right after my birthday May 2nd, I found out that I was expecting I got into a head on collision on May 23rd. I haven’t told my husband that I was expecting because I wanted to wait and surprise him on Father’s Day in June, but since I got into the car accident I had to tell him right away. I went to the hospital that day but they didn’t do any x-rays or ultrasound because they said it may to early to see anything on the scan. I felt fine so I left fast forward to June I haven’t been feeling well and I kept having pain that would come and go I just brushed it off as I was working to much and standing on my feet to long so I cut back working and after 2 weeks the pain still would randomly come and go. I was at work one day and couldn’t take the pain anymore so I went to the hospital they did a pregnancy test and my hcg levels were about 3100 so the OB said I should be around 11-13 weeks with those numbers. She sent me up for an ultrasound and the look on the tech face told me something was wrong. The tech never said a word I asked was everything ok and she said the doctor would talk to me. I got back to the room and the doctor came in and said maybe it’s too early to see the baby in the sack but there is a sack and your hcg levels are high so you are in fact pregnant follow up with your OB tomorrow.. I called my OB next day fast forward they sent me to there high risk OB for an ultrasound and that’s when they discovered my baby had attached outside of my uterus not in my tube and said it could be deadly for me if they tried to remove the sack. I was given two injections of methotrexate to kill the cells. This happened June 27th I went to the doctor every Monday until my hcg levels went back to negative. Every week I went my numbers went down but I kept telling my OB there was something still wrong because I wasn’t feeling normal and I was still having pain he told me I should be fine. On my last appointment the first week of August my normal OB wasn’t there so I had to see another one I expressed to her that yes my numbers are negative and I am no longer pregnant there is something still wrong. She said at this point I shouldn’t be in and pain or discomfort so she sent me back to the high risk OB where I found out that although the injections had killed the cells the cells never passed and in fact attached to the outside of my uterus and I had to have emergency surgery to get my right tube removed. The term they use was I had a cornual ectopic!! This was a very traumatic experience!
This has been one hell of a week... June 1st I had a doctor's appointment to get my ultrasound only to find out my babies had passed away due to them sharing the same placenta. June 2nd (my birthday) I was admitted to hospital to induce my labor. June 3rd I had my stillborn twin baby boys ... yall when I say this is one of the hardest things I've ever been through. To know I carried two blessings I was ready to cherish and give the world to , to never hear them cry , laugh, change diapers, feed them , and everything else a mother dreams of doing. It's a very hard pill to swallow and I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy.... Rest In Peace my sweet baby boys Dominic Diquint'e and Daniel Michael 💙💙💙💙 mommy loves you with all my heart